The calculus is simple: if you want the train to go far you need to throw weight off the wagon. Not everything is dead weight, but much of it is.

ISOLATION IS POWER

You cannot achieve greatness if you don’t isolate.

There will always be someone close to you needing your time. They are going through a breakup, they lost their job or they are just plain bored.

Remember: There’s only one of you and hundreds of others looking to draw from your energy. Your energy and time are limited.

For more on this dynamic, read Emotional Colonisation & Toxic Dynamics

TIME WASTED

You may think this perspective is too harsh and even anti-humanist. But it’s also real. How much time have you wasted on others?

Very successful people understand this: they need all the time they can get to work on their craft. And that means sacrificing the time they would have for others.

Remember: On the path to greatness, other people are a problem.

ANTI-POLITICAL

You must find the right balance between isolation and exposure if you want to do things for yourself. And in that process you can’t care what others say or what their expectations of you are.

You have to accept being anti-political and undiplomatic to win this battle. You can’t be tied down by what they say or think about you.

I repeat: for the train to go far, some people need to be thrown off the carriage.

You were not put on this earth to be the dumping ground of others. And you can’t care how they react when you start fending for yourself.

Remember: You are here for YOURSELF — you are not responsible for everyone else.

GREATNESS

But of course greatness depends on your perspective. It all depends on what you want.

So I can’t tell what greatness looks like for you, but I can give you some general rules to help you get closer:

1. Getting big things requires getting small things right first.

2. Discipline and consistency are required ingredients.

3. Sleeping early and waking up early is a life hack.

4. Stop when you are tired. Rome was not built in a day.

5. Do things in life different.

6. Follow your highest path.

7. Romanticise your life.

8. Act despite fear.

9. Protect your energy.

10. Remember: you only live once

Today’s article is about a flawed conception plaguing the modern masses, it always existed, but it is now more prevalent.

That money today has much less value than “money today” years ago — and if it has no value then what’s the point in saving it?

They rationalise that it’s only value is in spending it all now — all part of a failing attempt to get the things we think we want.

THE SUPERFICIAL NOW

But the obsession with the NOW does not only carry financial-economic repercussions — it also has existential ones, affecting how we understand our identity, the relationship with the self and how we experience life in general.

People today, especially post-COVID, don’t value creating something over decades. They don’t value substance or overcoming adversity.1

They value the short term. It’s all about the now. And there’s a lot of value being assigned on the readily apparent and the superficial — rather than the substantial.2

Easy example is: they care about money and (financial) power, but they don’t care about how you got it — as long as you have it.

LOTTERY TICKET LIFESTYLE

And if you scratch a few lottery tickets and you win something, they use that hindsight, that history to say, it worked for me — do this, do that.

The people who survived that stupidly-high-risk thing (i.e. their lottery ticket won!) are the ones who are in the podcasts and in the beach clubs talking about how they made it.

The people who didn’t survive (i.e. their lottery ticket lost!) are either literally dead or metaphorically dead, and they’re not going to share their experience.

But even if they do share it — no one cares what a “loser” has to say.

We only care what “winners” have to say.3

THE ETERNAL NOW

There is a better now than the superficial now — the eternal now.

“Wherever you are be there.”

This is of major importance today with attention merchants and other technological leeches thieving away our capacities to focus, reason and create.

But even more than that, as our perceptions of value, success and fulfilment shift — so do the things we want.

When you start to live the present with fullness, serenity and fulfilment — the former wanting of false trappings of success starts to diminish in value.

🤔: “Why do I want these things?”

💡: “In fact, I don’t.”

WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS

Forward this article to people who comply with at least one of the below.

• Inability to put the past, present and future into perspective.

• Puts excessive value on the superficial now.

• Unable or unwilling to delay gratification in achieving something.

• Thinks money is the solution to all their problems.

“Why not? Life is short. Life is dull. Life is full of pain. And this is a chance for something special.” — Juan Antonio in Vicky Christina Barcelona

I saw a girl at a bar recently. There was something about her: her energy, her aura, her beauty — that magnetism drew me in.

She felt like someone who believed in higher ideals: Greatness. Purpose. Maybe even her own greatness. But there was something holding her back.

Maybe it was her past. Maybe her hometown. Maybe the examples life had shown her — her environment, the people in her life, her bad experiences. She seemed caught between two worlds: the life she was leading and and the one she dreamed of.

Self-Imposed Limitations

And that’s when it hit me — most people live like that.

They dream of greatness but never allow themselves to truly believe it’s theirs to reach. They romanticise ideas but not their own lives.

To an extent, the greatness they dream of is just escapism from their real lives. They would rather escape their real life in their dreams — rather than risk trying to make their dreams a reality.

Here’s the truth

1. You have to believe, really believe, that you can reach those impossible visions.

2. And you have to act in alignment with that belief — live as if your future greatness is inevitable.

3. And when you start doing that, the outcome stops being a fantasy. It becomes your reality.

The Problem: most people never even start because they think dreaming big is naive and stupid. But that’s exactly how small lives are born, not from failure but from fear.

So romanticise your life… 🌹🪞

See yourself as the main character of something grand, bigger than yourself even.

You are not only living your life, but the life of someone special and one-of-a-kind.

Because you are, if you dare to believe it.

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Your personal space no longer exists.

I have to do this. I have to do the other. Deadlines looming. In the end, we become like robots and lose

What we lose in the process is ourselves — our focus and any sense of fulfilment.

Humanity is gone, creativity dies. The ability to feel grounded and centred — and actually enjoying whatever it is that we do.

The War of Attention

The Technology-Attention Complex is fighting for our attention.

Don’t get me wrong — we were already distracted. But now these beasts are trying to steal the last bit of concentration we have. They have mastered the distribution of brain rot and distraction delivery: short dopamine-spiking videos that steal our attention to turn a profit.

And it will never end unless you end it.

So, what do we do?

The Path Forward

If you pull these levers, I guarantee you — in one month, you feel different. In one year you will be someone completely different.

• Use less social media. Actually post what you want to post and then just get off.

• Reduce excessive caffeine intake. Your nervous system will thank you.

• Focus on sleep. Focus on rest. This is not an option, this is mission critical.

• Work in shorter bursts. Quality over quantity. Depth over distraction.

This is not about doing more. This is about reclaiming yourself from the attention merchants who profit from your scattered mind.

You are not here to feed the algorithm. You are not here to be a productivity robot running on fumes.

You are here to do work that matters. To live with intention. To be present in your own life.

The war of independence begins when you call bullshit on the systems designed to keep you distracted, depleted, and dependent.

Sever ties with the distractions. Save your focus. Follow your highest path.

Who needs to hear this

• People who can never seem to get anything done

• People who binge on coffee looking for the strength to complete a task

• People who cannot organise their lives and their work

• People who seem to have great potential which goes to waste

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They are stuck living in the past and can never make space for the new. They are basically setting themselves up for failure… 🔻🔻🔻

You don’t want to be a hoarder — you want to be a reverse hoarder.

To accomplish great things — you have to understand that your physical space directly connects to your mind space. And both of them must be pristine.

1) DECLUTTER

I went on a Decluttering Mission this month, and I didn’t hold back.

I started from my living space, then moved on to my work space, and even decluttered my digital living space too. My laptop, that is.

The first two were easy as I had no reservations in throwing or giving away old articles of clothing. And I didn’t need to do much in way of furniture re-configuration as things were already minimalist enough.

As for my work space: It was easy throwing out old piles of paper and saving the ones worth saving, but in a more organised manner.

If you don’t have any hoarding tendencies within you — this part will be easy…

But clearing out your digital living space, this will be a bit more difficult.

Digital Space… FREEDOM!!!

To make the process more streamlined, let’s use Chat GPT do it. Type this in the prompt.

Help me declutter my digital living space

This is what you will get 👇

Let’s attack your digital clutter like spring cleaning your brain 🧹🧠 — here’s a tactical plan:

🗂 1. File System Clean-Up

• Create Main Buckets: Work / Personal / Admin / Archive

• Use a “Sort Later” Folder: Temporarily dump chaos here, sort weekly.

• Purge Old Files: Delete duplicates, downloads, screenshots older than 2 weeks.

📧 2. Inbox Detox

• Unsubscribe Brutally: Use tools like Unroll.me or do a mass search: unsubscribe

• Set Rules/Filters: Auto-label newsletters, receipts, updates.

• Inbox Zero Trick: Move everything older than 2 weeks to an “Old Mail” folder. Start fresh.

🧠 3. Note Apps & Docs

• Merge or Migrate: Choose one home for notes (Notion, Apple Notes, Obsidian, etc.)

• Tag or Trash: If it’s not tagged or useful, archive or delete it.

• Create a Knowledge Hub: One clean place with sections for Ideas, Tasks, Logs, etc.

📱 4. Phone & Apps

• Delete Unused Apps: If you haven’t opened it in 30 days, it’s dead weight.

• Reorganize Home Screen: Only daily-use apps stay. Put distractions in folders.

• Set App Limits: Block dopamine junk during work hours.

🌐 5. Browser & Bookmarks

• Limit Open Tabs: Use OneTab or Toby to organize them.

• Clean Bookmarks: Keep only essentials, archive the rest.

• Clear Cache & Cookies: Feels like a digital shower.

🧰 6. Productivity Stack Audit

• What tools are actually helping?

• Kill off overlaps (e.g. multiple to-do apps, calendar tools).

• Consolidate into 1-2 reliable apps.

Want me to help you design the perfect folder structure or optimize your note-taking system?

—> You probably don’t need to do all of the above to achieve productivity gains, but pick the low-hanging fruit and start at once. You can even upload screenshots of your Folder Directories and ask Chat GPT to give you recommendations on how to organise them better.

A few days of this and your digital space will fast become 10X more efficient.

This will remove the heavy anchor from your productivity vessel — and allow it to embark on new journeys.

But is clearing out the old enough to set you on the path to unlimited success???

—> No! Because junk keeps flowing in unless you close the door and seal it shut.

2) SET BOUNDARIES

This is the second part of the “CLEAR IT OUT. LOCK IT DOWN” grand strategy. Declutter first, Boundaries second.

Wouldn’t you say Hoarding is the same as not being able to set Boundaries? The hoarder cannot say no, those who can’t set Boundaries say Yes all the time.

Same, same…

Saying NO

You were not sent on this earth to serve others and their whims. You are here to look out for #1, remember that.

Yes, you have friends and family — but they don’t own you. The more you let this happen to you, the less you will succeed. You can’t have both in this life.

Start practicing straight away. Write down the task list for the next few days and start ticking off the boxes. And as things get in your way — start saying no.

• Reject Invitations

• Don’t answer calls or messages straight away

• Let email pile up and only respond to the urgent ones, prioritise!

• Don’t go out for drinks when you have other things to do

• And the list goes on — I think you get it.

People Pleaser

Don’t be a people pleaser for the sake of pleasing people. If you have this behaviour, it’s probably because you need praise from people.

“Oh, you’re the best, you’re the smartest, you’re the kindest.”

The question you need to ask yourself rather is…

ARE YOU A SUCKER?

I am being harsh to prove a point here, every case is different. Learn to differentiate between what is what and always assume formlessness. These aren’t laws that cannot be broken, these are guidelines.

Start at once. Clear it out. Lock it down.

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The line below (that repeats throughout the cartoon) is my favourite, and the only one I can recall with ease…

Pinky asks Brain, “What are we going to do tonight Brain?

To which Brain responds with:

If you come from the same time you also probably remember Street Fighter and HADOUUUUKEN!!

The move is achieved by the character thrusting their palms forward, sending a blast of spirit energy (or ki) towards the opponent ("ki blast").

What is the real-life equivalent of the Hadouken?

It is concentrating your forces — your time, focus and energy — and discharging them towards a target.

But that is easier said than done, you need to have the force to be able to discharge it.

So how do you get the force? How do you start achieving your goals?

How do you take over the world?

The Triad of Energy ⚡️

• Do no harm — you need to retain and protect your energy.

• You need to create the environment where you generate sufficient energy.

• You must concentrate your forces and direct them to the right place.

1) RETAIN & PROTECT

Declutter and simplify your life — a messy life seldom attains greatness. You need as much headspace as possible. You need to remove distractions that leak energy and you need to create boundaries which prevent others from leeching energy off you.

But it’s not only others that steal you energy — you steal your own energy, by wasting it.

Stimulants like alcohol and digital stimulants like mindless scrolling and dopamine hits from screen time are today’s silent killers of success. These things flood your brain with non-natural dopamine and kill your motivation. There is no discussion.

The same goes for extra weight that you need to let go of. There are relationships or situations out there are toxic too — they poison your energy. You need to cut them, mercilessly.

2) GENERATE

Now that you have stopped the energy pool from leaking vital life force into nothingness, you need to replenish it too. First, you need to invest in good sleep and nutrition — it all starts there.

After you’ve covered the basics you need to layer energy-promoting activities like a healthy exposure to sunlight and a closeness to nature. You can’t stay in all day and expect to be healthy, that’s not happening.

You need a steady flow of positive inputs and to reduce the negative as much as possible. Reading will inspire and energise you, fulfilling conversations will do the same.

And walking is a cheat code for problem solving and idea generation…

But you’re not a machine that works 24/7/365 — you’re human and you need downtime. Travelling and exploring is highly energy generating, you need to do that several times a year. It helps you zoom out and gives you perspective.

3) CONCENTRATE YOUR FORCES

You would think this is the easiest part.

“Now that I’ve retained my energy and generated a lot of it — it will be easy to concentrate it towards my goals.”

In fact, this is the hardest part.

Because you have so much energy — it’s easy to lose control of.

Look at Ryu again — you think it’s easy channelling all that force towards the right place?

Do not underestimate the difficulty of concentrating your forces.

TAKING OVER THE WORLD

Executing the real-life Hadouken is not a one time thing — it’s a lifelong practice.

You will lose direction and get derailed many a time, but that’s part and parcel of walking this path.

The falling and standing back up again is not distinct from the journey to greatness — it’s part of it.1

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The reason? They need you to survive. They need an outlet to discharge their negative energies on. In effect, they are toxic.

They start out charming, witty and fun. They do this long enough to make you believe this is who they really are. You’re drawn in.

When their claws are set in safely, they move to the next phase: the dropping of the masks.

TRANSACTION-BASED RELATIONSHIPS

Their Modus Operandi is all about what they can get from each person in their lives — it’s all about transactions. Depth and substance are rarely party of the equation.

They pick their “love” partners according to some sick internal calculation of ultimate match-ability. The problem is that their internal calculation system sucks when you test it in the real world.

They pick their friends in a similar way. It’s ultimately about utility and convenience — not about substance and connection.

And when things no longer serve them? They find a way to spin things in a story so convincing that make you the villain. The flaws about you that they chose to ignore in the first place are now brought up and displayed like ornaments. It is you who is in the wrong here, let’s be clear! And don’t you dare suggest otherwise!

And if you are thinking about fixing them, best of luck. They know this pattern so well it’s as if they practiced it in a previous life. They have a whole playbook ready for you.

But here’s the bottom line — they never own their patterns. They go to therapy, sure, but only to make it look like they’re healing. They don’t actually want to heal or grow — that would take real effort and introspection.

What they do want is to make it seem that they are putting in the work, but that’s it. To be honest, it’s another subtle way of telling everyone that they are better than them. I guess you can add superiority complex to the mix ✅

If you are struggling to make sense of how they operate, understand this.

They see people not as equals, but as extensions of their ego. It’s about ownership. The way they see it — they own you.

And when you try to reclaim your freedom and independence, the playbook comes out: They either guilt trip you, love bomb you, or smear you. If you’re a tough cookie they will try all three.

If you’re not getting the message, this is not how human relationships should be.

This is emotional colonisation.

THE WAR OF INDEPENDENCE

Freedom and healing begins with calling bullshit.

You are not here to be someone’s toxic waste landfill or 24/7 emotional support hotline.

You’re not the Messiah — you’re not here to save everyone.

You are here to save yourself.

Do not fall into the traps that these masters of abuse and manipulation set for you.

• Sever ties.

• Save your own self.

• Follow your highest path.

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Those engaged in the struggle never separated the struggling with the achieving, it was one and the same. And it served a purpose: It was to sharpen and sculpt you into being worthy.

No Pressure, No Diamonds

But massive economic and technological advancement short circuited this process. Why work for something when you can just get the outcome on demand?

Why take the high road when you can take shortcuts?

This includes anything from the seemingly most simple to the most complicated — from getting a meal to writing a book. And no, I am not telling you to go out there and fish or hunt to have something to eat…

But have you realised how dependent we have become to things outside our control?

Have you even started to think what the “unintended consequences” of all these comforts are?

• Instead of socialising in the real world, we “socialise” in the digital world.

• Instead of going out and living our life — we scroll instagram living someone else’s.

• Instead of holding a thought in our head and working with it, we just google it.

• Instead of allowing ourselves to become bored for so long that our mind is forced to become creative and resourceful — we just mindlessly entertain ourselves by passively consuming the internet.

• Instead of reading 13 (or even 130) books, putting their ideas together and using endless pieces of paper jotting down thoughts and things until we arrive at a Eureka! moment…

• We use AI Chatbots to tell us what the answer is.

Where is the fulfilment in that?

I could go on forever, but you get the gist. By skipping the process and going straight to the outcome, we miss out on all the positives that the process has to offer.

And remember that this do not only apply to technology — this applies to everything.

Want more examples?

• If you just inherited the money, you’re probably not fit to manage it.

• If somehow “success” was just given to you — you don’t actually have success.

• If you used Chat GPT to get you through university, your degree is worth less than nothing.

This time of profound lack of difficulty has turned people into useless weaklings. And if that were not all, they are more self entitled than ever before. The less work they put in — the more they feel the world owes them.

Reinforcing Nothingness

And for some, this seems to be working. There was never an era where you could get so much by doing so little.

In the olden days, to conquer new lands you had to captain a ship and travel around the globe or become a fighter and risk your life in battle.

Today you can just conquer the world by buying the next Meme Coin that will do a 100X, or find the next way to cheat the system.

And because the few have been lucky enough to get this — now everyone wants something for nothing.

“Success without fulfilment is the ultimate failure.” —Tony Robbins

Ithaca

But success is something you get with time and pain, not something you order on delivery.

It took Ulysses 20 years to get to Ithaca, why should it take you any less?

WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS

People that seem to feel that they deserve everything

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Through the endless behavioural changes that have compounded over the years in our brains (i.e. us, the users of technology) — we have lost the ability to do anything without it.

Technology now tells us what to think, what to say and what to feel. We have lost the ability to communicate, to relate and to empathise.

Superficiality is now the norm. Socialising exists at a digital level, but is seriously lacking in the real world.

Deep understanding and communication has been on a steady decline for years, and it has consequences… Rather than tough times creating people with strong mindsets, the feedback loop has now been short-circuited by digital distractions.

INTERNET > REALITY

There was a time when the internet complemented life — now it has substituted it.

• Why think and problem solve when you can just Google the answer?

• Why learn a skill when AI can do it for you?

• Why engage in real life when the internet is easier and pain free?

This self entitled approach to life is making us weak and dumb. No effort, no striving and no pain, just the fundamental belief that we exist to be served. The struggle is no longer deified, but mocked….

But without the struggle, there is no fulfilment.

Do you want to be shaped by real-world influences or some Big Tech behaviour modification engine with the only objective to increase their engagement metrics and cash generation?

EMBRACE THE PAIN

Through behaviour modification and brain chemistry changes — humans have been programmed to avoid natural rewards from the real world in favour of digital rewards from within the matrix (i.e. the internet).

This has resulted in a dopamine addiction, conditioning our brains to crave the hyper-stimulating effects of smartphone screens, social networks and other addictive technologies.

And in this feedback loop of DOOM — the self is the first casualty.

1. As technology imposes on our natural way of life, the self is forced to retreat.

2. But then, the self withdraws even further by choice — as human relationships deteriorate and the internet becomes more exciting than life.

3. At that point technology dominates the human entirely resulting in him…

4. Losing his focus, motivation and the powers and sharpness of his cognitive abilities.

5. That is where creation dies.

The Death of Creation

In this JRE interview with Michael Easter — they discuss the importance of BOREDOM as an ingredient to creativity.

But the internet never lets you get bored — these companies want your full attention to make more money off you. So when will you ever get bored?

…and if you never get bored, how will you ever create?

We have become pain-avoiding animals to the point of detriment — simply because the internet and screen/dopamine addiction has hijacked our brains to do their bidding.

If you don’t reverse this process, and start at once — you will never create anything of value. You will never achieve fulfilment.

Start with the below and look out for more pieces on the below soon on Self-Care Supremacy.

Reclaiming the Self

• Go back to basics, what are your primal inclinations?

• Learn to do one thing at a time.

• Learn to become bored again, and then look for natural rewards!

• Reduce screen time. Install a screen time app on your phone.

• Reduce stimulants & escapism.

• Fill that regained time with things of value.

• Learn to embrace the pain.

• Start journalling. Thoughts, feelings, plans, ideas. Anything.

WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS

• People that seem to be hopelessly in love with their smartphones

• People who can’t log out for more than 15 minutes

• People who can’t hold a conversation without checking their phone

• People who can never sit and think without the use of technology

• People who can never be bored because they use their phone all day

• People that have developed symptoms of ADHD from excessive use

• People who have symptoms of depression like anxiety and mood swings because of excessive use

• People who can relate to instagram more than with real life and humans around them

• People who are self obsessed and extremely ego oriented

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I thought everything had gone marvellously, but after the cleaning my dentist dropped a bombshell: I had early-stage periodontitis — something she said was an irreversible condition. Worse yet, she told me I had been dealing with gingivitis for quite some time, something she had neglected to mention before!

I just stood there staring at her not knowing how to reply. Besides, I never liked irreversibility…

I had unknowingly been neglecting my oral health, assuming my standard routine was enough. I started asking her questions about my condition and what I can do — I took her recommendations to heart and started the process.

I switched to a more diligent oral care routine — and practiced it religiously.

1. BRUSH IT LIKE YOU MEAN IT – I upgraded to Curaprox toothbrushes and Enzycal toothpaste, ensuring I wasn’t using overly abrasive tools that could harm my gums.

2. BRUSH AWAY – I began using interdental brushes daily to remove remnants from places my toothbrush couldn’t reach. You don’t want any leftovers stuck in there festering on your gums! There are different sizes of brushes, make sure you don’t use that’s too big or too small. Don’t worry — after a few tries you will find what’s just right.

3. FLOSS LIKE A BOSS – No excuses, no skipping days. I treated flossing as non-negotiable. Every night, no matter where I was — I flossed. You’d be amazed what you’ll find if you floss every night 👀

4. FINAL TOUCHES – Before the dental hygiene routine was finalised, you just gargle some high-class mouthwash and spit it out. Boom, you’re done! 😁

A few months of doing this and it was once again time for my dental cleanse. I waited patiently for her to finish before I started to bombard her with questions.

The results spoke for themselves — no more signs of gingivitis, and my gums were as healthy as ever. The supposed "irreversible" condition? No longer a concern.

I shot back, “But you told me it was irreversible..” She replied, “Sometimes if you get it early, you can reverse it.”

Ok then… ✅ 🥲

Why won’t you?

I see so many people today ignoring the basics. They say they want a lot from their lives but can’t even do this? There is no excuse!

Bad oral health starts slowly; bleeding and inflamed gums, occasional sensitivity, bad breath — but later they snowball into serious, sometimes irreversible, consequences.

And it doesn’t stop with your teeth or your mouth; your oral health is directly linked to your overall well-being.

Yet, people still ignore it. They spend thousands on skincare, fitness, and diets while disregarding the foundation of health—basic hygiene. How can everything else start to go right if you neglect the fundamentals?

The lesson? Take control of the small, essential habits first. Flossing, brushing, and routine checkups might not feel like game-changers in the moment, but they are.

If you can commit to these basics, imagine what else you can master in your self-care journey.

Self-care isn’t just about indulgence; it’s about discipline in the small things that compound to bigger things along the way. Ask your dental hygienist what’s best for you, and start at once!

My Oral Hygiene Stack

• Curaprox Ultra Soft tooth brush

• Enzycal 950 tooth paste

• GUM Easy Floss

• Interprox Super Micro 0.7mm brushes

• Eludril Gums mouth wash, for everyday use

• Eludril Classic mouth wash, use sparingly

WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS

Forward this article to people who comply with at least one of the below.

• Does not have a pre-arranged dental cleanse at least once a year.

• Thinks flossing is pointless.

• Forgets to brush tooths 😬🪥

• Smells a bit funky sometimes.

• Could get shinier teeth.

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We’ve been sold a dream — success at all costs. But what is the cost, really?

We think we are chasing freedom and financial independence — the IDEAL. But somewhere along the way you realise you’ve lost something far more important — one’s self.

“Success with fulfilment is the ultimate failure.” —Tony Robbins

We confuse success for fulfilment and money with happiness.

Every single day; we are dying for something. But for what?

If it’s money: How much is enough?

If it’s status and prestige: Are you living for yourself or everyone else?

If you overwork yourself for too long, the first casualty will be your relationships — and when they are at their worst, your health will join in the downfall.

Only then will you finally realise that not everything in life is about money.

Where I’m from there’s a saying, “No one takes the money with him.”

Reclaiming Quality of Life

If your whole life is about your work, then guess what — you don’t have a life.

But you can start to take it back.

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1. Put your health first. Sleep well, eat right, train your body. No success is worth exhaustion and bad health. Cut out the toxicity, from all places. Remember that psychosomaticity is a thing.

2. Balance life and work. Work is infinite, life is not. Learn to put limits. You can’t postpone living.

3. Focus on the INNER scorecard, start to repress the external scorecard. Detach from external validation. Live the way you want. Start by doing something you’ve always wanted to do.

4. Human relationships. Family, friends, humans! Start to have real conversations. Relate to people, develop more empathy. Help someone. Start to come out of your shell.

5. THE SELF. You lost yourself in the process of striving for an elusive goal. What’s actually more important than the SELF? And I don’t mean that in the narcissistic, self-obsessed way that modern culture mistakes for self worth. I am talking about a deep, unshakeable relationship with yourself — one that stems from personal power and next-level clarity.

Do this and you will see how things start to change.

Lastly, in your path to reclaiming your quality of life, there is something that catalyses the process — journalling.

Start to write what you’re thinking. What are you striving for? What did you achieve today? What are your feeling?

Doing this will catalyse all your self-care activities and multiply their effects.

Namaste,

Self-Care Guru 🧘🏻‍♂️

WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS

Forward this article to people who comply with at least one of the behavioural patterns below.

• An unresolved painful past made them find solace in their work and in chasing success.

• An unhappy present life makes them do the exact same thing.

• Their self worth is directly connected to their work. Life is work and life is work.

• An inability to stop to breathe and look around.

• Postpones vacations, leisure time and self-care things because things keep coming up.

• Living only for the future but never for the present.

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Today we will talk about the most widely consumed stimulant the world has ever known, caffeine. We will refer to ways it is ruining your life and what you can do about it.

Coffee & Insomnia

Your sleep is crap, and your life isn’t that great either. Remember that insomnia isn’t when you are unable to sleep even for a minute. It’s when you aren’t sleeping as you should.

There are many reasons people suffer sleep issues from, and caffeine is usually the culprit. Don’t skip this post! Just hear me out.

Caffeine, which is the main thing in coffee by the way, is a psychoactive stimulant. Basically, it’s a drug. We won’t get into the technical nitty gritty of this because there are too many resources online that do this.

Instead, what we will do is talk about how your denial in going off caffeine is affecting your quality of life — and expected value!

Enjoying Caffeine

Yes we know, you enjoy coffee. You can’t do without it. You need it to wake up in the morning, go to the toilet, work out, communicate with people. bla bla bla…

Everyone says the same things when I dare mention going off the bean, some even get annoyed!

I HAVE ONE PLEASURE LEFT AND YOU WANT TO TAKE THAT AWAY FROM TOO???!?

Have you maybe considered that living your life around a stimulant isn’t such a great idea? No matter how you rationalise abusing your body and mind — no matter your long-term goals and what you tell yourself about where you’re going…

You need to face the fact that 🔥burning out🔥 today to get somewhere in 3 or 10 years may not be such a great idea…

The Unintended Consequences ☕️🕸️🕷️

I abused caffeine for years. I also under ate and over worked, that’s both at work and at the gym. I ended up killing my sleep and my health too.

I wish I knew much earlier how much of a weight to my health and wellness caffeine was…

Caffeine will stimulate your nervous system and spike your stress hormones, this will give you a big spurt of “energy” (as I said, let’s not get too technical) which will then invariably lead to an even bigger crash.

The misunderstanding is — you think the energy part is good, healthy, productive and that you get sh*t done.. Weeelllll, it doesn’t exactly work that way.

The stimulation you get from caffeine isn’t pure energy it’s stress — and stressful energy comes at a cost.

Your mind functions differently when it’s calm + balanced relative to when it’s overstimulated. The former is organic and productive, the latter is scattered and messy..

So your metabolism takes a beating, your sleep is failing making you deprived and stupid, and your productivity goes down the drain like the Caffeine Spider above that made a mess of the spider web. YOU HAD ONE JOB, SPIDER! 🤦🏻‍♂️

By being a chronic caffeine user you have lost calmness, peace, restful sleep, a connection to your mind and body, serenity, focus, concentration, connection, empathy and all sorts of things..

And what is more, you lost YOURSELF in the process 👇

How to Let Go & Make It Easy

Quitting an addiction and actually turning the page is not about New Year’s Resolutions or challenges, it’s about real intent and smart method.

Your life/work balance isn’t yet perfect, your weekdays are tough and probably your weekends too. So you feel extremely resilient to caffeine-quitting ideation, it’s a non starter for you.

This is the only way to make it easy… 👇

Say you 3 drink cups of coffee a day? Or 3 Energy Drinks? Start cutting slowly: I would take the third coffee and cut it by half, and do that for 2 weeks. Then, make the third coffee a decaf.

In one month you’re down 1 coffee, 2 to go. The second month do the same, and keep de-escalating your intake until you go zero caffeine.

This should let your body enough time to withdraw and start healing. This period of time and the time after going zero caffeine will be a time of healing and slow reversal of the lifestyle of fast-paced mindless living and stimulation.

Understanding the Process

During this time you must embrace a new you, as cliché as this sounds. Eat the foods that nourish you, and definitely don’t replace one stimulant for another!

Some things will take months to completely recover and reverse when you quit caffeine. The bowel is one of them, your brain is another. If you were too used to stimulating your gut with caffeine to make it “move” — and your brain to make it think, then removing the stimulant means those things have to start working on their own now.

Give things time and TRUST THE PROCESS.

Conclusion & Progress

Expect to see improvement in sleep from the first few days, and even further progress with the passing of time. Embrace feeling a bit “off” during the withdrawal and give yourself time. Patience is key here.

This is the first part in embarking on the journey of living your best life and following your highest path.

Namaste,

Self-Care Guru 🧘🏻‍♂️

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The Self-Care Supremacy Launch Statement

Because modern life is getting completely out of hand. And the technology-social media complex is the final stage.

Did we escape the caves and the wilderness only to live in the 4 walls of stress and mediocrity — mindlessly scrolling a small screen all day?

We worry 24/7, isn’t there a better way?

All the things that modernity values — we are programmed and conditioned to chase.

But what is the cost?

It’s only creating more stress and dysphoria; and over time, failure and disease.

We need a new M.O. (modus operandi) and a reset — and we will do it right here.

There’s a better way to health and wellbeing.

There’s a different path to success and financial independence.

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Think of this as a “how to” on following your highest path.

Only you know what your highest path is, but you are letting life take it away from you one day at a time.

So many things to do, so many things to fight.

The checklist is infinite but time is not.

Where do we start? Right here.

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