Emotional Colonisation & Toxic Dynamics
Survival of the Leeches.
Some people don’t just take up space — they disrupt your peace, your clarity, and your boundaries. They are masters in reeling you in to their toxic-ridden, always-drama and negative energy lives.
The reason? They need you to survive. They need an outlet to discharge their negative energies on. In effect, they are toxic.
They start out charming, witty and fun. They do this long enough to make you believe this is who they really are. You’re drawn in.
When their claws are set in safely, they move to the next phase: the dropping of the masks.
TRANSACTION-BASED RELATIONSHIPS
Their Modus Operandi is all about what they can get from each person in their lives — it’s all about transactions. Depth and substance are rarely party of the equation.
They pick their “love” partners according to some sick internal calculation of ultimate match-ability. The problem is that their internal calculation system sucks when you test it in the real world.
They pick their friends in a similar way. It’s ultimately about utility and convenience — not about substance and connection.
And when things no longer serve them? They find a way to spin things in a story so convincing that make you the villain. The flaws about you that they chose to ignore in the first place are now brought up and displayed like ornaments. It is you who is in the wrong here, let’s be clear! And don’t you dare suggest otherwise!
And if you are thinking about fixing them, best of luck. They know this pattern so well it’s as if they practiced it in a previous life. They have a whole playbook ready for you.
But here’s the bottom line — they never own their patterns. They go to therapy, sure, but only to make it look like they’re healing. They don’t actually want to heal or grow — that would take real effort and introspection.
What they do want is to make it seem that they are putting in the work, but that’s it. To be honest, it’s another subtle way of telling everyone that they are better than them. I guess you can add superiority complex to the mix ✅
If you are struggling to make sense of how they operate, understand this.
They see people not as equals, but as extensions of their ego. It’s about ownership. The way they see it — they own you.
And when you try to reclaim your freedom and independence, the playbook comes out: They either guilt trip you, love bomb you, or smear you. If you’re a tough cookie they will try all three.
If you’re not getting the message, this is not how human relationships should be.
This is emotional colonisation.
THE WAR OF INDEPENDENCE
Freedom and healing begins with calling bullshit.
You are not here to be someone’s toxic waste landfill or 24/7 emotional support hotline.
You’re not the Messiah — you’re not here to save everyone.
You are here to save yourself.
Do not fall into the traps that these masters of abuse and manipulation set for you.
Sever ties.
Save your own self.
Follow your highest path.
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